On the Art of Not Giving A Fuck
Don’t worry, this isn’t going to be a recap of “The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck” by Mark Manson, which I have yet to read. Instead, I wanted to reflect on exactly those words and the meaning they have for me now.
If I’m being completely honest, I’ve spent much of my life giving too many fucks about things that really don’t matter. And, at the risk of sounding trite, you truly stop caring about meaningless things when you go through really trying times.
When I think about all of the time and energy that I’ve wasted on things and people that didn’t deserve it, it almost upsets me. I say almost, because honestly, I really don’t have any fucks to give to the coulda-woulda-shouldas.
I don’t mean for this to sound like some sort of pretentious manifesto, but I AM hoping that, by reading these words, you too might feel empowered to only give your precious attention to things that are truly worthy of it.
You see, we are so bombarded by all kinds of messages and life goes by so fast that we often don’t get to grasp the true sense of it. As far as I’m concerned, my job and interests (like this blog) require that I spend a lot of time on my phone. Not exactly the most conducive tool for understanding the meaning of life.
And yet, we have a choice. I have a choice. I can choose to let the outside “noise” get to me and mess up my essence, or I can choose to ignore it, or at least parts of it. I can choose the company I keep and whom I allow to get close to me. I can choose to go on a shopping rampage during Black Friday, or I can choose to realize that I have a plentiful, bountiful life and that I really don’t need to purchase anything, even if all of the ads are trying to convince me otherwise.
It can be very confusing to live in times like these. But, when all is said and done, when there is nothing left around you, or rather, when there is almost nothing left of YOU, what will be the things that you can say truly mattered in your life? The things that added value and meaning? The answer will probably be short and you will probably be able to count those things on one hand.
One thing is for sure, it won’t be that discount you got on a sofa at Article, or what so and so thinks of you. Those things don’t matter and that’s why you should stop giving any fucks about them and spend more time and energy towards living with gratitude and in the moment. Use those fucks sparingly.